Mr. “Too Good to be True”
Today’s story, is brought to you by a recent date that my dear friend Juliana went on. I find it honestly so ironic and funny, because out of all of the dates that Juliana has went on over the span of the last couple of months, only one of them was because of Hinge. You may not think that this is interesting whatsoever, but the rest of the dates that she has been on, have all been because of guys from her past, (whether it was through work, high school or college, or old connections) and it is like all of them are resurrecting themselves, back from the dead. (Especially as of recently).
I think there is a reason for this (as I like to dabble in Astrology) and currently, we have the planet Mars, in retrograde. Anytime that we have a planet in retrograde, (which means that the planet is moving backwards) it asks us to revisit or pause on something. But the retrograde itself, being in the planet of Mars specifically, means that it rules over our desires and motivation. And since Mars is ruled by the sign of Aries, it is no surprise that Mars also rules our sexual desires…and drive. It makes me want to laugh out loud, because maybe there is a correlation with Mars and its flirtation, with wanting to revisit some potential, “blasts from the past”. If all of these men thought this was the time to start revisiting Juliana, the planets and stars, are hitting it right on the money.
As Juliana is managing these men, one of them, asked her out on a date, to an indoor miniature golf course. And let’s just say, that the start and the duration of the date, was going very well. He picked up Juliana in a Tesla, brought her flowers, and carried out conversations fairly well. He is also a young father. However, despite Juliana not wanting to even go on the date at first, she eventually started to feel that as the night was going on, things started to turn around for the better. And she was surprised at how well things were going. It was like it was “too good to be true”.
And I hate to say it, but unfortunately, things ended up being just that, “too good to be true”. Once the game of golf finished, they went out to a couple of bars afterwards and had some drinks. As the night went on longer, so did the levels of intoxication. I wish I could say that the levels of intoxication, translated into feelings of passion, but it seemed that this was true, for only one of the parties.
After the bars, they went back to Mr. “Too Good to be True’s” place, and Juliana recalled that he had way too much drink, and was ready to GO FOR IT. He was ready to kiss, get handsy, and it doesn’t take much to really know what he was down for…a good fuck. Now, I cannot speak for Juliana, and what she was in the mood for, but it seems that Mr. “Too Good to be True” was doing SO WELL, until the final conclusion of the night.
Men, I think if you come across too aggressive and sloppy, it can turn a woman off. And it can certainly make a woman run, if you do not respect when she is not interested. Juliana mentioned to me that she told "Mr. “Too Good to be True” that she did not want to go further, and it seems like her slight pushback, was making him try even harder. It took some strategic maneuvering, for Juliana to slip away from Mr. “Too Good to be "True’s” house, but let’s just say, when she was retelling the story, you could tell she had a massive “ick” towards the man.
I am not sure how many people have watched “Nobody Wants This” on Netflix, but there was a slight tid-bit, of the main character Joanne and her sister Morgan, talking about “icks”. For most women, once we get an “ick” there is basically little to no recovery after that. The same principle seems to be true for Juliana. She told me that Mr. “Too Good to be True” gave her the “ick” so bad, that there is no turning back from that. In addition, Juliana felt more turned off, since this young father, had a daughter. It hit even harder for Juliana, because as she was retelling the story to me, she said, “Would he want his daughter to be treated that way? In the way that I was, when I expressed my boundaries?”. I would only hope, that every father of a daughter, would say, “Of course not!”.
However, she made an excellent point. I am not a parent, but as someone who can empathize with other women, if things get too hot and heavy, I honestly would hope that a man would listen, when he needs to stop. “No” is a full sentence, and it should be expressed at any point, when a woman feels uncomfortable. It is a shame too. I was texting Juliana while she was on the date (to make sure she was okay and checking in here and there) and she gave me pretty positive updates. I was actually rooting for Mr. “Too Good to be True”! He just fumbled at the final hour. Oh well. Maybe it is better to know whether it won’t work out, as early as possible?
While another one bites the dust, the optimist in me thinks that Juliana is only one step closer to finding her long lasting love. The faster you filter through the “bad dates” hopefully, the good ones can come by soon. Or maybe, we can just blame this chaos, and these “blasts from the past” on this Mars Retrograde. If anyone is following what astrology is coming for us soon, wait till we get to Venus Retrograde. Now that transit, will definitely bring some more stories for me to tell!
Until next week,
~Christina Snitko
